. . . June Marriage In Crisis
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Looking Into a Marriage Breakdown
You've seen it before, a marriage breakdown. It may not have even been you, but maybe your parents, or a friend's parents. Perhaps even a friend and their spouse. But no matter where you've seen a marriage breakdown, you will decide at that point it's something you will never hope to experience for yourself.
When you've witnessed the marital breakdown the chances are in most cases you don't even know what has lead to the problems. A lot of people will not discuss their private lives with even close friends. It's something that just happens; they may feel like they would burden you too much.
If it was your parents, you may have found out many of the problems that caused the marriage breakdown. But it's pretty hard not too as your listening to them yell most of the time around you. As a child there isn't much that you can do to help out, but just sit and hope your parents will make it through these times.
It's hard for your parents to realize exactly what this marriage breakdown is doing to you. In fact in most cases they are so unhappy they have a hard time looking past their own feelings. That doesn't mean they don't love you. Many kids who have experienced a divorce though will feel that they may have caused the problems, making them feel worthless.
As a parent who's gone through a marriage breakdown and have children involved, you need to make sure how your children feel. Go and talk to them, even as they get older so you can make sure they never feel that your divorce was caused by them. This could help cure the need for years of counseling that may arise if you don't go and talk to them.
Sadly though many children will go through this divorce process, as they watch parents head down the road of marriage breakdown. Alarmingly, divorce seems to be so accepted by people anymore that many parents don't even seem to fight to save their marriages anymore. It's sad that an institution that was once held so high has gone to such a low level.
Yes there are still people out there that will hold marriage where it should be. Taking their vows seriously, and realizing that they can't just give up at the first sign of marriage breakdown. That they do need to get help, be it by a book, or through a counselor.
Hopefully, you are a person who takes the vows for what they are, trying your hardest to get past marriage breakdown. Even when you want to say it's over, work harder to save a wonderful marriage. Or decide that you just messed up in the beginning, and got married for the wrong reason. It seems like that happens quite a bit in life now too. Marriage breakdown can lead to divorce, and this is something that many people have gone through before. It's also something that will not go away.
When you've witnessed the marital breakdown the chances are in most cases you don't even know what has lead to the problems. A lot of people will not discuss their private lives with even close friends. It's something that just happens; they may feel like they would burden you too much.
If it was your parents, you may have found out many of the problems that caused the marriage breakdown. But it's pretty hard not too as your listening to them yell most of the time around you. As a child there isn't much that you can do to help out, but just sit and hope your parents will make it through these times.
It's hard for your parents to realize exactly what this marriage breakdown is doing to you. In fact in most cases they are so unhappy they have a hard time looking past their own feelings. That doesn't mean they don't love you. Many kids who have experienced a divorce though will feel that they may have caused the problems, making them feel worthless.
As a parent who's gone through a marriage breakdown and have children involved, you need to make sure how your children feel. Go and talk to them, even as they get older so you can make sure they never feel that your divorce was caused by them. This could help cure the need for years of counseling that may arise if you don't go and talk to them.
Sadly though many children will go through this divorce process, as they watch parents head down the road of marriage breakdown. Alarmingly, divorce seems to be so accepted by people anymore that many parents don't even seem to fight to save their marriages anymore. It's sad that an institution that was once held so high has gone to such a low level.
Yes there are still people out there that will hold marriage where it should be. Taking their vows seriously, and realizing that they can't just give up at the first sign of marriage breakdown. That they do need to get help, be it by a book, or through a counselor.
Hopefully, you are a person who takes the vows for what they are, trying your hardest to get past marriage breakdown. Even when you want to say it's over, work harder to save a wonderful marriage. Or decide that you just messed up in the beginning, and got married for the wrong reason. It seems like that happens quite a bit in life now too. Marriage breakdown can lead to divorce, and this is something that many people have gone through before. It's also something that will not go away.
Nick Richards' career is based on helping couples reunite. Every couple is different, but his advice applies to all relationships.
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More advice on saving your marriage from marriage breakdown is available at Save A Failing Marriage and at How Do I Save My Marriage
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